Dating Single Parents
I really admire single parents, with all the hardships in their life; they are still able to endure all of it. For their children, they are able to suck up everything that life has thrown at them. But single parents are humans too, with emotions that people usually feel. They also long for love and affection not only from their children but also from other people as well. They also long for a companion who would grow old with them. So for single parents to go on dates is not a distant reality.
First question about dating single parents is if it is right and proper for them to go on dates. In my opinion, there is absolutely nothing wrong about it. They are single anyway. Plus everybody needs love and a partner in life, it is just sad if society will dictate it for them to be lonely all their life. They also have the right to be happy and be with somebody else who could support them in their life aside from their children.
Raising a family is also hard if you are the only one answering and supporting the family’s needs. As the saying goes, “it takes two to tango”, you will really need a partner to help you raise your family well. Life is hard to face when you are all alone. Let’s face it, when the kids grow up they will have their own families and eventually move out. That is why it is perfectly of for single parents to date. People should not think that what they are doing is immoral because they are doing it for themselves and the children. It is really hard for a single parent to find a partner that would easily accept them, there past and there present situation. Some even view them as immoral people because of certain factors. They tag single moms with immorality because of the early pregnancy, or that they got pregnant before they got married. Single dads are often looked at as irresponsible men or a cheater that is why their partners left them.
But of course, there are so many outside factors that deal with that. Those are just some of the examples how society looks at single parents. In reality, single parents are hardworking and responsible people that are able to fend for their kids even if they are the only one supporting the family’s financial needs. It is just sad how they degrade them. People should not be judged because of the mistakes they have committed in the past. For those who would look at single parents with an open mind and get to know them better, they would realize that these people are very responsible. They have dealt with almost all problems they could possibly encounter and overcame it. Single parents would be a very great partner because they are very mature and have different views on things. I really wish that these single parents would date and find a mature and responsible partner to help them in forming a new, strong and normal family. If you are already dating a single parent, there are some issues you will have to deal with.
The biggest issue that you will encounter is dealing with his/her children. When you are dating a single parent, it is as if you are also dating his/her own children. As you start to accept him or her as a person, you should already have first accepted the fact that the person that you love is already a parent. And that by loving him or her, you should already love the children. Dating and having a relationship with a single parent is like a package, you already have an instant family. For starters, you will have to get the trust of the person you want to have a relationship with. I guess you have to prove to him or her that you are mature, responsible and will be loving to his or her children. Once that is done and you are maintaining a relationship, you will have to get the trust of his or her children. Since your partner is a single parent, it is natural that his or her children are not used to their parent having a partner. At first, they will be very suspicious of your motives; they will be protective of their mom or dad.
It is believed that getting the kid’s trust and getting them to like you is the toughest part. Once you get it, you already have dealt with the problems of dating a single parent.
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